Wendy’s Sad Story (Part 2)

I am pleased with the result of the DNA test for baby boy Sow Zhi Kian as it proves the words of the mother, , that Sow Kien Siong is not the biological father of the child.

The families of the couple, Sow and Lim, would not have gone into a public feud if Michael Chong had handled the case in an objective manner like listening out Wendy Lim, and getting the DNA test done right from the start. The reason Lim and her family came to me was because she felt that she has not been treated fairly by Michael Chong.

Michael Chong has made glaring mistakes in handling the case, i.e.:

1) He should not have asked Lim to sign an ‘agreement’ allowing Sow to visit her baby twice in a month. This is because Lim is only 16 years old and she is a minor.

Clause 11 of the Contracts Act says that “every person is competent to contract who is of the age of majority according to the law to which he is subject, and who is of sound mind, and is not disqualified from contracting by any law to which he is subject.” In the Age of Majority Act, the age of majority is 18 years old.

This means the agreement signed by Lim and endorsed by Michael Chong is null and void.

Michael Chong is a Justice of the Peace. He should have known the law before he endorsed an agreement.

Section 99 (5) of Subordinate Courts Act 1948 says: A Justice of the Peace whilst exercising his powers or performing his duties as such shall be deemed to be a public servant within the meaning of the Penal Code ……

According to clause 166 of the Penal Code, a public servant disobeying a direction of the law can be punished and fine too.

2) Michael Chong should not have listened to the statement of Sow Kien Siong and his family that the aunt and uncle of Wendy Lim were suspected to have been involved in selling of babies. He himself has repeated this statement in his press conference too. This is an act of defamation. It is very unprofessional for Michael Chong to openly accuse someone on matters that he’s not familiar with. Michael Chong has just about destroyed the reputation of Wendy Lim’s aunt and uncle who were trying to lend her a helping hand.

Lim’s aunt and uncle are demanding Michael Chong apologise to them or they will file a defamation suit against him, Sow Kien Siong and his family.

Michael Chong has accused me of separating the couple and had handled the case in an unprofessional manner. The DNA results proves that it is Michael Chong who has handled the case in an unprofessional manner.

I urge Michael Chong can learn to be more tactful and careful in handling future family matters, so that no other family needs to be drag through the mud in ugly public fights.

林淑薇2007年12月8日声明
1.我对于我的孩子苏志健的DNA 测验感到非常高兴, 因为这证明我之前对我父亲、苏家母子、张天赐及媒体所说的话是正确的。

对苏吉祥家人

2.我对苏吉祥和他家人在过去一个月来所发生的事感到抱歉。我希望苏吉祥和他家人能够明白，我从来无意要苏吉祥当我孩子的“便宜爸爸”，我当初根本就不想嫁给苏吉祥，我是在父亲的强逼之下嫁入苏家的。我在婚前和婚后都曾对苏吉祥和他母亲说，我的孩子不是苏吉祥的，只是他们不把我的话当一回事。

3.在我孩子的DNA 测验后，我希望苏家能接受这事实，不要再跟我争孩子的抚养权，也不要再干扰我。

对祖父及父亲

4.我对我孩子的事情发生后，祖父因为我「家丑外扬」而公开不承认我这孙女感到遗憾。无论如何，我还是把他当作我的祖父。我对于祖父和父亲一直不相信我的话，一味要我回去苏家感到难过，他们根本不愿意听我解释，也不了解我的感受。我希望他们现在能站在我的立场上，支持我和谅解我。

感谢

5.这里我要感谢所有在我患难时支持我和帮助我的家人，特别是我母亲、我阿姨陈美丽及姨丈傅福煌，国家化验局及郭素沁国会议员。没有他们的协助，我今天肯定还活在困扰中，我根本不能重过新生活。

我的过去和未来

6.我承认我过去对爱情无知，所以才会陷入错误的感情里。我目前的意愿是学好一门手艺，以便将来能在经济上独立，同时把孩子抚养长大。

7.我目前很渴望平静的生活，我会吸取过去的教训，不再重犯。我也决定在我未满21岁之前，不会结交男朋友和进入任何感情生活。

林淑薇

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Statement of Wendy Lim on 8th December 2007

1. I am very happy with the DNA test results of my son Sow Zhi Kian, because the result proves my statement to my father, the family of my ‘husband’ Sow Kien Siong and his family, JP Datuk Michael Chong and media is true.

2. I feel sorry for Sow Kien Siong and his family over what had happened in the past one month. I hope Sow and his family can understand that I have never intended to make him as “father of convenient”. I have never intended to marry Sow Kien Siong, but I was forced by my father to do so. I have told Sow Kien Siong and his mother right from the start that he is not the father of my baby, but they never took my word seriously.

3. I hope Sow Kien Siong and his family can accept the result of DNA test and don’t fight with me over the custody of my child, and don’t disturb me anymore.

4. I regret my grandfather has openly disowned me after news of the incident appeared in the press. However, I still treat him as my grandfather. I feel very sad that both my grandfather and my father refused to believe ime and kept wanting me to go back to Sow Kien Siong’s family. They have refused to listen to my explanation and refused to understand my feelings. I hope they can support me and understand me now.

5. I wish to thank all who have supported me and helped me when I was in trouble, especially my mother, my aunt and uncle, Malaysia Chemistry Department and YB Teresa Kok. Without their help it would have been hard for me to turn over a new leaf

6. I admit that the reason of me falling into wrong relationships was because I have been ignorant about love and boy-girl relationships.

7. My aspiration now is to learn new life skills so that I can earn a living and raise my child, and I wish to have a peaceful life. I shall learn from the mistakes of my past and won’t repeat it anymore. I have decided that I shall not fall into any intimate relationship before I reach the age of 21.